Is it good that people see me this way in my relationships?

I naturally have a thing for shyer, more respectful men. I am louder, outgoing, I put myself out there. My current boyfriend (we're unofficially dating) is shyer, and fits that. He's lankier, cute, blue eyes, etc. I'm more of the Kim Kardashian type lol, body wise. I hate being told what to do, and I hate feeling useless, and like the smaller person. I don't want to be the submissive woman in the relationship. My friends have told me I'm bossy, and I treat the guy I'm in a relationship like my child lol because I tell him what to and what not to do. I also am a little clingy, and I make all the moves. I ask him out on dates (Again, unofficial relationship, everyone thinks we're dating, we haven't made it official) but with other relationships, I do all the things a guy would do.And my friends see me this way, as the dominant. Is this good?